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A friend of mine called Lincoln Bazira I prefer calling him Maurice though, recommend for me this book, Thank you so much Maurice, and well I grabbed the chance because the title was quite captive. Do you know those books that make you feel like you want to do everything that it’s talking about, call it imitation or re-evaluating your life, this book is among those. I fell in love with this book but well it’s very brief, I actually wanted it to keep going on and on, haha. Anyways, am reviewing a book called I kissed Dating GoodBye by Joshua Harris let’s roll…….
when you first glance at the title of this book, you get all these imaginations, that it’s basically advise for you to quit dating. Am I right? Well at least that is what I thought it was about, but to be honest that isn’t entirely the case. It’s basically to encourage us to build genuine relationships with the opposite sex and other people, Puting God at the center of your relationships and loving others like Christ did without expectations in return. Anyhow, this is what the author says in his introduction.
Thanks for picking up this book. Some people never get past the title. “My friends won’t touch it,” one girl told me . “They hear the title and say , ‘There’s no way I would do that.’ One guy urged me to change the title. “More people would read it,” he said. May be he’s right.Joshua Harris
Some of you may be in that category of the people saying, hell no am not giving up on dating, So I can’t dare read such a book. Well, no one is asking you to, all Josh Harris addresses in his book is the tendencies of playing around with people’s feels and other people’s future wives and husbands, having fun at the expense of others. Sometimes we as human beings especially us youths engage in a relationship when you know damn well, that there is no where your heading with the particular relationship but you still waste the other person’s time, and at the end you have even broken their heart, because they had given in completely to the relationship, that’s sad right, you keep breaking other people’s hearts over and over again, Who do you think you are? Some of us are just playing around, since we are very idle with our time or even our life, please get something to focus on, am sorry to say, you cause people to lose their purity before time because you claim they have to prove they love you, Are you God!
Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a great millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea.Mark 9:42
I’ve come to understand that God’s Lordship in my life doesn’t merely tinker with my approach to romance, it completely transforms it. God not only wants me to act differently. He wants me to think differently, to view love , purity, and singleness from his perspective, to have a new lifstyle and a new attitude.Josh Harris.
If your single and not in a relationship please wait until your ready to be serious and love that person like you would like to be loved back. If your in a relationship, evaluate it, ask yourself if your trying to love that person like Christ loves us, or if your very willing to commit to that person for life, if not just quit and allow both of you heal much earlier. With all that said, my greatest take home was, only date if your ready to commit or marry that particular person, the dating must be free from the physical actions so as to keep pure till marriage, to be intentional about our dating and to also make genuine relationships with the opposite sex without having romantic speculations in mind. I actually hate this kind of mind set, where people believe that we can’t have an opposite gender, just for a friend, they always think there is more to it, damn. Since I believe it’s very possible because some of my very good friends are actually gentlemen. And I see different people having opposite gender as very good friends too.
Waiting until I’m ready for commitment before pursuing romance is just one example of letting Christ’s love control my relationships with the opposite sex. Each person has to examine his or her own life and ask what it means to love others like Christ. I won’t pretend that the day-to-day issues of dealing with attraction or how close a friendship should get are easy to sort through (we’ll talk more about this later in the book). But I’m learning to make God’s word, not my feelings, the guide. And as I do, my love is getting smarter. Yes, the Bible actually teaches that our love can and should grow in knowledge.Joshua Harris
I actually was evaluating my relations, as I was interacting with this book, I even considered ending all, if not some of the relationships am in, honestly! But, Well, I just decided to work on my intentions for the different relationships and make them purposeful. I decided to try and give genuine and unconditional love plus support where necessary, it’s not easy. Since I have been loving or call it associating with some people with expectations. So basically, this book has helped me to know how best to build genuine relationships, and more insight on Christian dating.
Learn to treasure and respect other people’s feelings, because I guess you wouldn’t want to be “taken for a ride” Right! I assure you no one wants to go through that. Don’t be the cause of others stumbling in their walk with Christ just because you played around with their precious heart. Only date if your willing and ready to commit to that person. It’s never easy with all the crushing and admirations we face growing up, allow God guide you because he loved you first with a priceless love, trust that he also knows best.
Disclaimer! am no saint, though am here all blubbering. That aside Please my readers, I encourage you to get that book and interact with it find out more, this was just a tip on a iceberg. Thank you for reading.
Till then estimated readers.
A bunch of love.